This new field of study uncovers the roots of pain so that present generations may be healed and future generations might not be impacted. As trauma is passed down from generation to generation, the impact it has on the expression of our genes can be hugely significant.
Understand and be aware of the many factors surrounding intergenerational trauma and look deeper into inherited behaviours and epigenetics. This important international event brings together world-leading authorities and experts in the field of intergenerational trauma and trauma recovery. And I know that I’m more than ready for my children to help me continue along my healing journey.The 2nd Intergenerational Trauma Conference will take place, virtually, on 19th and 20th January 2021 . I’m grateful to my mother for teaching me the importance of education and maintaining family traditions like Saturday pancake breakfasts and summer vacations. And these days, it’s a lot easier to let go of some of the pain and see all of the things that were actually pretty great about my childhood. Now that I have children of my own, I’ve been able to have a lot of healing conversations with my mother. She was more concerned with giving me a chance at life than being my friend.
And as a single mother whose teenage pregnancy forced her to defer her college dreams, she was intent on making sure I didn’t follow in her footsteps. The daughter of an alcoholic mother who was often unavailable, my mother’s instinct was to protect me at all costs. And it became clear that my mother’s high standards were deeply rooted in her life experience and her own journey to motherhood.
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Suddenly, the world was a scary place full of people and influences I didn’t want around my children. There was a lot for me to learn and unlearn about being a mother. All I had to do was abandon my mother’s “because I said so” approach to parenting for a more collaborative method.īut when my children arrived, the reality was a different story.
I would right all of the wrongs and be the mother I never had. I was determined to do things differently with my children. Throughout my teenage years, the early curfew she imposed and the perfect grades she demanded put a strain on our relationship and motivated me to finish college and move as far away as I could. Growing up, I felt smothered under my mother’s oppressive rules. And how we care for our children is influenced by what we loved and longed for as children. Our need to be held closely or kept at arm’s length is directly influenced by the way we were mothered. Whether we know it or not, the impact of adverse life events that our mothers and their mothers experienced is lodged deep within us and affects how we live and how we parent. Instead, it lingers and passes down through one generation to the next. Intergenerational trauma refers to a type of trauma that does not end with the individual. In a sense, we were all exposed to the emotions, experiences and life events of our grandmothers even before we were conceived. This means that a part of you, your mother, and your grandmother all shared the same biological environment at the same time. In other words, when your mother was in your grandmother’s womb, she carried, at that time, the egg that eventually became you. A big part of parenting comes from on-the-job training, but there is also a lot about being a parent that is already inside of us.Īll the eggs a woman will carry form in her ovaries while she is a fetus in her mother’s womb. I didn’t know it then, but that nurse was right. Somehow, you just figure it out,” she said. “You can read all the books you want, but the babies don’t read them. On one of my prenatal visits, the nurse who came to take my vitals literally laughed out loud when she saw me reading. I was determined to be ready for anything this baby threw my way. So I started reading pregnancy books like I was preparing for the SAT. Motherhood is a huge responsibility, and I didn’t want to mess it up. Halfway through my first pregnancy, I started to panic.
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